My Autism Insights

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An illuminating conversation this evening reminded me that ‘the system,’ in other words, the school system, is really not to be trusted when it comes to what’s best for your special needs child.  Many parents either believe that their school district has their child’s best interest in mind, or they believe that they can’t reject whatever the district is trying to push at them.  Neither is true as I was reminded tonight.

I called to schedule a visit to the local school’s special needs class (the one I said no to last year) and the teacher called me back to set up a time.  We got into a very interesting dialog.  Actually, I quite liked her and if Gus ended up with her, it would probably be okay.  But I’m glad I spoke with her directly.  For one thing, last year after she’d evaluated Gus, she felt that he would not be a good fit for her class (she has since changed her opinion since the makeup of the group changed).  The district at last year’s annual review told me that the teacher did think he was a good fit.

You’re probably thinking, “That must have been an oversight or a misunderstanding.”  Perhaps, but it gets better.

When they emailed the teacher that I may be calling about paying a visit, they told the teacher that I was unhappy with his current program.  Now, it’s possible that they could have inferred that from, “I don’t want him to change schools,” but I’m not quite sure how.

They also neglected to tell the teacher how often he’s been bounced around over the past 3 years - she said that even if he is a good fit, he should stay put or he would just lose another year in re-adjusting to yet another change.  Did I mention I liked her?

So the moral of the story is: whenever possible, communicate with teachers and service providers directly because school districts might say whatever they have to in order to get you to go along with their agenda.