My Autism Insights

It’s great to be in sync with service providers without even knowing it.  Apparently Gus’s Occupational Therapist (OT) has been teaching him to tie his shoes.  For a child with a short attention span and trouble with fine motor skills and coordination, this can be a difficult life skill to learn (tying in general, not just shoes).  Gus had said a while back that he would learn to tie them by the time he turns eight.  Well, that’s coming up pretty quickly, and he might just do it!

I know there are a few strategies used to teach kids to tie shoes .  We’re using the single loop method.  We tried bunny ears, but that just didn’t work for some reason.  Some people use elaborate stories, but ours isn’t too complex.  He sings She’ll Be Comin’ Around the Mountain while he’s tying, which is a double edged sword - he gets the gist of the story, but he also loses focus because of the singing.

1. “She” is on a train coming around the mountain.  So we need to make the train tracks.  Make an X with the laces.
2. The train goes through the first tunnel. Take the tail of one lace, through the tunnel and then pull them apart.
3. Make a mountain.  With the dominant hand, make a single loop and hold in place.  (I find that Gus sometimes forgets to hold onto the loop.)
4. Now the train goes around the mountain and through another tunnel.  Take the straight lace around the loop, and then push from the middle through the second tunnel.  Pull the loops apart.

It’s not a foolproof method, but he’s getting it.  Because he tends to learn well with a musical component (musical intelligence) the song does it for him, but use whatever works for your child.

Has your child learned to tie shoes?  If so, what method worked for you?

Our last ‘holiday’ activity was to take a trip into New York City to visit the Swedish Cottage Marionette Theater located near 79th Street and Central Park West (there’s an entrance across from the Museum of Natural History).  You may question, “Why not visit the Museum?”  For a kid like Gus who gets overwhelmed with sensory overload very easily and wants to be everywhere at once, the Museum is fun, but it’s also an endurance trial that greatly shortens the length of time that he can manage himself.  The puppet theater, however, was just his speed.

We saw a production of Peter Pan.  The show lasted 55 minutes, perfect for short attention spans (of a 5 year old and a 7 year old with ADHD symptoms in addition to his Asperger’s).  It’s a very small theater, so even at its most crowded, there aren’t but so many kids.  It wasn’t very noisy or busy, and even the little bit of chatter before the show started was annoying Gus who was trying to listen to the music playing.  He coped.  Once the show started, he was thoroughly engaged and sat through it, probably better than some adults who were (very rudely) up and down, in and out of the theater.  At one point during a set change, there was music playing and a disco ball shone lights on the curtain, stage and ceiling.  It was like when Gus was a kid and used to get mesmerized by the ceiling fan or the wind blowing through the leaves in the trees.  Complete fascination.  Even MM got a little zoned out watching the lights.

It was a very long car trip for us, but worth it in the end, despite the obscene parking cost and the subsequent back pain I’m dealing with today.  We thought about taking the train and then subway, but I was worried about Gus getting overwhelmed and overly ‘bouncy’ in what would be for him a dangerous environment.  In the car though, the kids had a packed lunch and chilled out listening to their favorite music.  We got there early enough that they could spend some time at a playground near the theater to work out some of their energy before having to sit through the show.  Before making the trek home, we stopped in the boroughs to visit with my sister and have a bite to eat.  They slept on the ride home - easy peasy.

Many times it can be a challenge to find entertainment for children on the spectrum because of all the sensitivities to their environment.   I’ve found that little excursions to things like community theater, the puppet theater, smaller kids museums, or outdoor activities have worked best for us.  Both kids enjoy their time without getting sent over the edge.  And that works for me.